Sometimes I am so torn with my feelings towards people. Since I'm 30, recently married (almost 2 years ago actually), and have expressed an interest in having a family, basically everyone gets the idea that I'm likely trying to get preg. Now this is fine, I'm not that secretive of a person but I also haven't solicited advice from people and I don't really know if I even appreciate it. So, on Wednesday a co-worker emailed me a link to a website indicating a bunch of great stuff to eat to help with fertility. Is this nosey or nice? I don't really talk to this lady very often and I just felt annoyed at her, even though she may have just been trying to be nice. But, HELLOOOO..... do you think that I haven't already researched EVERYTHING to help with fertility?!!! How do you all feel about getting unsolicited advice and tips?
There are also a few people that I told I was doing fertility treatments and now they have gotten into the habit of asking me EVERY month..."so are you trying this month?" or "are you preggers yet?" or even telling me that they have been checking out my tummy to see if they can detect any pregnancy bloat! This makes me super paranoid about my "fertility-treatment-induced-bloat" (I look pregnant when I'm on these drugs!) and my sometimes I "ate-too-many-doritos-before-bed" bloat! Stop staring! Also, are they asking because they "care" (ya...right) or because they need something to add to the office gossip pool? Being the pessimist I am, I think these folks are actually NOSEY and NOT NICE.
Now I wish I had kept my big mouth shut, but of course I was naive at first and thought I would get preggers on the first try. Ahhhh...would've been nice!
To resolve this issue I have told people at work that we are not trying until atleast the summer since we are really busy with "other stuff". Hopefully this will shut them up and let me enjoy my dorito/fertility bloat in peace!
Ciao for now! LTB